I am going to share an experience today. This incident actually happened with a very close friend of mine.
We are office friends and share our daily routines, fights with hubby, share our kids activities with each other, daily lunch in office, family stories and all. On a project she got an opportunity to go onsite to a client’s location and work there for 2-3 months. She went and came back and suddenly her attitude changed. With me and with everyone around us. I also saw this change and saw that she is being very arrogant. She started avoiding me saying she has work she has a lot to handle in the team. She stopped talking to me. She stopped picking my calls saying i am busy you go ahead for lunch alone. I felt bad. But then her work got less, she called me and said you are behaving like this with me. You stopped talking to me and started crying. I felt sooo weird and so bad that she is blaming me for her behavior. But then i became normal with her. As she got time she used to talk and i started being normal. Being friends for long, i too had expectations from her but then i realized she talks to me only when she is in need. OK no issues, i thought its fine. Then again she got a chance to go onsite and work with client, and in that time she just got to know she is pregnant with her second baby. She went and had to come back early from there as she was not feeling well and started getting some health issues. Same happened daily, we used to meet and discuss the “soon to come” baby.. I remember her words clearly, she used to say i do not think i will love this newborn as much as i love my first child. I used to tell her that you are wrong. Her attitude was again arrogant and her team members stopped talking to her because of this attitude and arrogant attitude. She used to show the “being rich” attitude and even i drifted away from her because this was making me negative. But then suddenly, she got some complications and doctor told her bed rest. I was in touch with her throughout this period, then she delivered baby in 7th month, baby was not well, on a ventilator he was. Baby struggled for 3 months and then left this world. I was in constant touch with her throughout and visited her home many times to comfort her. She just joined office two days back. I understand that she is being broken from inside, and she needs me at this time. I was with her whole day in office but i also can not do this daily. Since i have my projects and have work to handle as well my family my kid everything. She is expecting me to be with her whole day but this is not possible. I am doing how much ever is possible. But deep down i always have in my mind, that how she used to behave with me. How she used to avoid me and ignore me. I think to myself and i have learnt, that we should not change during our good times. Because time is not always the same. I see her talking to those people now and seeking their support, whom she has thrashed in front of managers and even got some of them out of the projects. And those people are not showing their support now. I feel bad for her.
I learnt today, that even in our best times we should treat everyone well.
I am always there for her and will support her. And i hope she come out of this situation and become strong and God Bless her and her family always.